I Feel......
Lonely... That's how I feel right now. It's incredibaly hard for me to admit that. I've always been somewhat of a loner. Didn't need anyone( diddn't really want anyone) around. Go back about 7-8 years I was incredibally shy, hell borderline aniti-social actually. It's kinda sad thinking about the lengths I would go to to avoid socail situations. The kid had problems seriously. Even when I got over my "people-phobia" I was still the type of guy who could spend extended amounts of time without really hanging out with other people without feeling any way about it. Lately though...Maybe I just miss my boyfriend.
Is it wrong for me to want the dude I've been with going on 4 years now to move in with me? The answer is probably no. Is it wrong thinking about ending my relationship when he tells me he doesn't want to move. The plan was for him to move here when he finished school but he needed atleast a year experience in his chosen field before most places around here would even accept an application. That year is about up and everytime I bring up the whole moving situation he dodges it. I Love him but I don't think either of us saw ourselves in a long-distance relationship forever. Like I said I really don't think he plans on moving. He hates it here, can't tell me why but he hates it here. Like Hattiesburg, MS is so great. Whatever, we'll see what the end of the summer brings.
Maybe I SHOULD get a dog.
posted by lj at 12:53 AM
6 Comments:
dogs are quite the responsibility. that said, they pale in comparison with the duties one must attend to in regards to a relationship.
nothing wrong with wanting ol' boy to be with you, especially if he agreed to it. but, you can't put your life on hold waiting for things to work themselves out.
you may have to press the issue about relocation (you or him). but it's always better to know where both parties stand than to guess and wish. hope things work out for the best, but you have to work them out, they won't do it on their own.
2:17 AM
Hmmm - maybe Rover is the solution.
7:50 AM
I agree with the first comment...don't be over bearing but do get to the botto of this...don't wanna pass out from holding your breath, man.
Dogs are great companions...of course they're not lovers (hopefully, ewww) but very much friends, playmates, etc. They are even protective of you and they get jealous too depending on what type you get. I hadn't even trained my rottweiller but he refused to let anyone he didn't know come near me. He would come sit at my feet on the back porch and put his head in my lap. I thought it was so adorable. I miss him *sigh*
YAY for dogs!
1:23 PM
Moving in? Big move. I think it is the clear consensus here that getting to the bottom of his discomfort with the idea is the way to go. You never know, if he is so against it it may not be such a bad thing. You guys have been together for QUITE some time. How much longer are you stationed there?
2:04 PM
Glad you're back. Enjoy the summer.
-jump off JOE
8:12 PM
The only thing that you can do is talk to him about it and BOTH of you come to some sort of compromise.
BTW. I am glad to see that you made it back safely to this side of the world.
1:38 PM
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